Your wedding day is one of the most important days of your life, so of course you want it to be perfect. Then again, deciding how you want things done doesn’t mean you have to do all the work yourself!
There are people who love you who have gone their entire lives waiting to help you on your big day. Sisters, friends, and even mothers will feel honored that you trust them with an important piece of this epic occasion. Here’s a look at to-do’s that can be reliably outsourced without adding more stress to your plate.
Bridesmaid and Groomsmen Gifts
It’s traditional to give special personalized gifts to the special people in your life who stand up in your wedding; something to commemorate the day, either engraved with the date or otherwise personalized for each gift recipient. Once you give your approval on the basic design of the gift, this is a perfect item for a member of the family to handle. Have them create a list of gift recipients, place the order, pick up the gifts, and wrap them before the wedding day.
Wedding Shower Thank You Notes
The wedding shower is where you’ll receive most of the physical gifts for your wedding, and keeping track of who gave what is a major job in itself. Delegate one of your bridesmaids to be in charge of these gifts. Have them make a list of your guests, note what they gave, and send out a personalized thank you note after the shower to acknowledge their generosity.
A wedding scrapbook is a multi-layered souvenir of one of the most important days of your life. Save this task for one of your best friends or a very close relative, since they’ll be in your life as much as possible. Give them a lot of advance notice so they can start saving photos and picking out accessories and scrapbook papers long before the big day. Give this creative person a general theme for the book, as well as the color scheme, but allow them free reign when making the book itself. You’ll have a physical piece of their memory of your special time, as well as a piece that connects the two of you in a special bond.
Reception Band Try-Outs
When choosing the band or DJ for your wedding reception, you’ll probably find a large number of them that fit the bill. Narrowing them down to a single choice takes days on end, spending evenings going from bar to bar and party to party, hearing them in their working environment. Find a friend with your same taste in music and give them a list of characteristics you’re looking for in a DJ. If you trust their taste, you’ll save yourself a lot of time.
One of the newer wedding items that’s becoming more popular is the wedding website. People can log on to find out details about the big day, see where you’re registered, find out hotel and travel information for out-of-town guests, and much more. If you’ve got a friend who loves to build websites, or even one who’s proficient at WordPress, consider letting their creative talents shine, and giving your brain a needed rest.
Bridesmaid Dresses and Fittings
Of course you’ll pick out your own bridesmaid dresses, or at least choose the color scheme if you’re allowing each woman to choose her own dress (a new and happy trend). What you don’t need to do is keep track of who’s gone to their fittings and who still needs to finish their dress. Choosing coordinating shoes and accessories are also a part of this job you can pass on. Find someone with great organizational skills and let them stress handle the rest.
Wedding Party Transportation
Unless you’re having a tiny wedding in a park, you’ll need some sort of nice transportation between the wedding venue and the reception hall. Task one of the groomsmen with arranging a limo between the two places. He can shop around for the best value and coordinate pickup and dropoff times.
It’s traditional to give each wedding guest a little party favor, either personalized candies or little reminders of the day. While nice, it’s not such an important detail that you need to be concerned with it. Let someone in your family choose and order the favors, and put them in charge of getting them to the reception. Details like this will seem like a lifesaver when the big day comes.
Weddings include a surprising number of vendors; caterers, bartenders, musicians, photographers, and others. Find the most organized person you know and put them in charge of riding herd on this collection of groups. Have them coordinate arrival and departure times, organize setup and teardown procedures, be in charge of payments and give gratuities at the end of the celebration. A wedding can be as complicated as a theater production, and an organized leader is the “stage manager” you need.
The last thing you want to worry about on your honeymoon is whether you’ll come home to a large late fee or an angry vendor. There are rentals at every wedding, from the extra chairs in the reception hall to the groomsmen’s tuxedos. Every item has a return date, past which you’ll be charged a large amount of money as a late fee. Choose one of your most responsible friends and put them in charge of physically making sure each rental object has been returned to its proper place. He should visit each groomsman or call him to make sure the tuxes have gone back, visit the reception hall and wedding area in search of rental chairs or serving dishes, and get receipts from each vendor as proof that the items have been returned in good condition.
Your family and friends can be more than just guests, and by letting them handle these items for you, everyone will have a happier ceremony.